Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, you do better. Maya Angelou

“You must learn day by day, year by year, to broaden your horizon. The more things you love, the more you are interested in, the more you enjoy, the more you are indignant about, the more you have left when anything happens. Ethel Barrymore.

Learning for me is a passion; however I didn’t know that until I got to know myself better. When I actually learned to listen to myself!

High School was about socialising, friends, good times. I received average marks, I wasn’t encouraged to continue my education  nor did I want to. Once I had finished school – Senior High (I finished school in Toronto, Canada) I just wanted to get out into the world and work so I could save, travel, move into my own place and enjoy my independence. It wasn’t until my early 30′s that I found my ‘mojo’ for learning, to broaden my life outlook, to learn to ask more profound questions and see the world as I had never seen it before.

After getting off the corporate treadmill, I started to study the topics I was actually interested in… a new world and a more authentic me started to emerge. I was fascinated by natural health, human behaviour and mysticism and I wanted to learn more… not really understanding that I was about to embark on the road to self discovery and healing… (Something I had to do myself first, before I could support others).

Learning for me has to be inspiring, helpful, fun and creARTive!

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Aromatherapy was the first subject I was drawn to – such an ancient art of healing and covered all aspects of what I was interested in, like history, nature, healing, psychology, making potions! I really did feel like “The White Witch of Annandale” blending all those beautiful healing essential oils in my kitchen to make moisturisers, face masks, cold and cough remedies, muscle rubs, insect repellents, room sprays… the list goes on. So finding the interest and passion for aromatherapy and natural health also became a part of my life and introduced me to working in the wellness industry for 15+ years which also included several years of more study, lectures and papers to be a counsellor and coach… or as I call myself a Life Stylist!

It’s never too late to learn new things and seek out what you love to do! I know for me, it keeps me interested and interesting and I can then share with others.

As you may know, I am also an enthusiastic, eternal student of evolutionary astrology; I find it inspiring and accurate. Of course my ‘astro’ buddies and I may come across the occasional ‘nay-sayer’ – “I don’t believe in that!” and as I explain, “it’s not about believing, it’s about understanding, it’s about reading symbols, it’s like reading a map… your natal chart is your life map and when you can read a map, you know where you’re going and the life lessons/potential become clearer and easier to co-create and navigate”.

So astrology is one tool for self discovery/improvement /evolvement and there are magnitudes of others that can support you…like going to workshops, retreats, lectures, LISTENING, meeting new people, travelling, reading, writing, drawing, meditation, watching relevant programs, movies, role play, talking…. however if you wish to really get to know yourself (yes warts and all), it’s important to find what works for you.

Just the idea of watching a documentary may ignite a new way of thinking about a topic, which may inspire you to learn more and open up a new dialogue. You may even notice how you respond to something that has touched you deeply.

Travelling will encourage you to look at life from a different perspective, it’ll get you totally out of your comfort zone if you’ve travelled to places where the English language and familiar comforts are limited; you will be introduced to new people, cultures, customs, food, architecture, belief systems, fashion – I just love to travel, it’s stimulates all my senses!


One of the most important life lessons about getting to know myself has been learning to really listen, gently quietening my mind and listening to my body, acknowledging those unwanted thoughts, just being quiet for a while; truly listening to peoples’ conversation. Earlier, I would be eager to jump into the middle of someone else’s story and interrupt them to get my experience across, to be heard first, saying yeah me too… let me tell you… and cutting the person off – there’s no listening when I do that! So I’ve included an inspirational poem about listening for you all to take in and I hope you resonate with the poem as I did when I first read it. I still learn from it today.

It’s all very interesting this ‘Life Stuff’ and I hope to share with you on a variety of topics, so if you’re interested in self improvement, natural health and well-being along with some of my other interests like travel, design, house renovation and HAVING FUN – you might just enjoy being part of this little community.

Until the next time!

Ciao for now!
Jen xx
Your Life Stylist